Want to go deeper in your marriage? Discover 10 influential things your husband wants you to say, with Bible verses to bless and encourage closer relationship.
Marriage is not living together, it’s communicating life. Your husband may not always say so, but he craves words that encourage, build up, and affirm him as your husband. God created words with power to build up or tear down (Proverbs 18:21), and your words, wife, have the ability to shape the heart of your husband.
Things Your Husband Secretly Hopes You Will Say to Him
Here are 10 powerful things your husband secretly hopes you’ll say to him, each one rooted in biblical truth and designed to strengthen your relationship
1. “I’m proud of you”
Many men wonder if they’re “enough” – enough as a provider, protector, or husband. Saying “I’m proud of you” speaks straight to his core.
Bible Verse:
“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.” – Proverbs 31:23
Tip: Mention a special moment you’re proud of him for—like how he handled a tough moment with grace
2. “Thanks for working so hard for our family”
Men carry heavy burdens quietly. A sincere “thank you” reassures him that he is not unnoticed.
Bible Verse:
“Let the one who is taught the word share all good things with the one who teaches.” – Galatians 6:6
3. “I believe in you”
When the world shakes his confidence, your trust in him can be his anchor.
Bible Verse:
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up…” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11
4. “I respect you”
Respect is the foundation of a man’s heart. It shows that you value the calling God gave him.
Bible Verse:
“.the wife must honor her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33
5. “You feel safe with me”
Physical protection or emotional safety, doesn’t matter – he feels such deep satisfaction in knowing that you feel safe with him.
Bible Verse:
“The Lord is my strength and my shield…” – Psalm 28:7
Tip: This gives him a confidence boost as a protector and leader.
6. “I’m praying for you”
Prayer is effective—and reminding him you’re praying gives him spiritual protection and reassurance.
Bible Verse:
“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” – James 5:16
7. “You’re still the one I want”
Change occurs. But reminding him he’s still the one your heart requires continues the flame burning.
Bible Verse:
“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.” – Song of Solomon 6:3
8. “I trust your decisions”
Even when you don’t exactly see eye to eye, demonstrating faith allows him to walk in confidence.
Bible Verse:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart…” – Proverbs 3:5
Tip: Faith grows when there is open and respectful communication.
9. “I love the way you lead our family”
Leadership is not easy. Expressing approval of his spiritual or practical leading gives him the courage to continue leading.
Bible Verse:
“Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife as also Christ is head of the church…” – Ephesians 5:23
10. “I love you, and I’m thankful for you every day”
It sounds like nothing, but these words hold lasting power when spoken every day.
Bible Verse:
“Above all, love each other deeply.” for because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8
Final Thoughts
Your husband may not always tell you, but he would love to hear these words from you. Don’t underestimate the power of your voice in his life.
Make your words sweet honey – sweet honey to the soul and medicine to the heart (Proverbs 16:24). With God’s help, speak life, speak faith, and speak love into your marriage.
A Prayer for You
“Lord, grant me words of building up, not of tearing down. Grant me wisdom to encourage my husband, and may our marriage be a reflection of Your love. Amen.”
